How You Treat Other People

A hugely important sign of how you feel about yourself is how you treat other people. If you feel awful about yourself, then you'll treat people poorly. If you feel great about yourself, you'll treat others well. Only one of these paths leads to genuine happiness and fulfillment.

As human beings, we have choices about how we feel, think, and behave. We can function on autopilot and let all our fears and hurts get on everyone else or we can consciously behave with compassion and kindness. The reason I enjoy providing life coaching for kind, sensitive, creative people is because they understand that other people also need to be treated with care. When you're sensitive to others it most likely means you're tending to your own inner needs and you feel good about yourself which, in turn, builds a better world.

What are your tips on how to treat other people well?

Cheers,
Guy

Hurt People Have Dead Eyes

There are many times I'll be talking with someone or even watching TV and notice that deeply hurt people have dead eyes, a distant, detached look that comes from inner trauma and a history of hurt.

Each one of us has hurts in his or her past, but it's what we do with that pain that determines whether we develop dead eyes or not. Some people hurt others because they themselves are so damaged inside, others choose to do life-affirming, uplifting things. People with dead eyes have given up on helping others, but it doesn't have to be that way.

The wonderful thing about human beings is that we can overcome anything and use it to create more good in the world. Think of the power we each have to do positive things and to treat others well. I love providing life coaching for kind, sensitive, creative people because they have the predisposition to move in a gentle, caring direction and create a better world.

We each only have one life and we can choose whether we live it kindly. What tips do you have to avoid dead eyes?

Cheers,
Guy

Shirking Responsibility

I love coaching kind, sensitive, creative people because they naturally seem to understand that we all have a responsibility to care for one another and create a world we can all enjoy. When one person is in pain then we're all responsible as a group; when one child goes hungry, we all are responsible.

A lot of people are conditioned to believe that empathy, kindness, or peace are impossible concepts. They say it's just too hard to reverse the tide of history and replace it with kindness, but that's just shirking responsibility.

There are millions if not billions of people across the globe who believe in creating a peaceful, kind, equitable world. The key is to let those voices be the ones that guide us instead of the one's that lead us into selfishness, conflict, and strife.

Kind people don't say, "I didn't have anything to do with that," when they hear of someone's suffering, they take action to make it better. If each of us took responsibility for caring about the rest of humanity, we could build a better world over time. Just as we designed the world we have now, we can create another, it will just require taking responsibility for each others' well being.

What are your ideas on taking responsibility for creating a better world?

Cheers,
Guy

Happy People Aren't Mean

Genuinely happy people aren't mean because they feel good about themselves and aren't constantly on the offensive or defensive against others. When you feel truly peaceful and balanced inside, you tend to behave the same way toward others because you don't have anything to gain or compensate for by going down an unfavorable path.

I've worked with many people over the years to help them be as happy as possible in order to create a more positive world for themselves and others. The reason I exclusively provide life coaching for kind, sensitive, creative people is that they tend to be open to looking deep within themselves and finding what brings them joy.

I'm always surprised by the amount of people who say they're happy and then do all kinds of things that demonstrate they're not. Luckily, human beings can change their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. If you're not happy right now, it's not a problem, it just requires the will to heal yourself inside and move in a different direction. It's the process of replacing your current way of doing things with new, more positive approaches.

What are your secrets to being happy instead of mean?

Cheers,
Guy

Are You Really an Optimist?

I've met a lot of people over the years who claim to be optimists and then think and behave in profoundly pessimistic ways, for example: The person who says he (or she) really loves people but routinely treats them horribly. The key to living a truly meaningful, happy life is to love yourself so much that you automatically live optimistically. Here are some characteristics of a genuine optimist:

• Treats himself and others with kindness.
• Values love and compassion.
• Helps build a better world for as many people as possible.
• Does not exclude others from anything.
• Does not see himself as separate from others.
• Is actively healing his hurts.
• Does not behave in ways that damage others.
• Is not afraid of change.
• Is not stuck in the past.
• Is constantly learning and growing.

Optimists will do these things the majority of the time because they feel good about themselves deep inside and want to keep spreading good vibes. A major reason I enjoy providing life coaching for kind, sensitive, creative people is that they tend to behave in ways that demonstrate genuine optimism and hope. What tips would you give someone on how to be an optimist?

Cheers,
Guy

On Being Shy

I'm shy by nature although I've learned to compensate for it to the point that I've been a professional presenter and workshop facilitator for years. This doesn't change the fact that I prefer to be alone and doing my own thing, without people hovering over me.

I don't really like casual social situations. Most people would say that I appear to be a social butterfly, but I actually get headaches from too much superficial interaction and small talk. I prefer to hang out with someone I really care about or a small group of close friends.

My family forced me to be social at a very young age. I grew up in an environment where you had to mingle and be on stage. I often had to retreat to my room to escape all the noise created by my family members and recharge my batteries.

Because I'm an introvert, I deeply enjoy providing life coaching for kind, sensitive, creative people (who might also be shy) because I know what it's like to have to cope with a brash, loud, grating world when all you want to do is be contemplative and imaginative.

What do you think about being shy?

Cheers,
Guy

Treating Other People Well

The concept of treating other people well seems to be missing from many individual's vocabulary. It's like they crave a world based on everybody doing exactly what they want, even if it's at the expense of someone else rather than building a sense of community.

When you treat another human being poorly you're demonstrating how you feel deep inside. People who have unresolved, festering hurt and pain inside tend to treat others with less care. They don't know how to love themselves, so they 're unable to treat other people well.

The reason I provide life coaching for kind, sensitive, creative people is that those are the qualities I want to support and celebrate in the world. I prefer to focus on people who are agents for positive change rather than people who function based on their hurts. Kind, caring people make the world a better place by modeling positive behavior and spreading joy.

Treating other people well requires being truly happy inside first. It means liking yourself enough to interact positively with others and consider their thoughts and feelings. It's living with love rather than fear or anxiety.

What are your tips on treating other people well?

Cheers,
Guy